The most important thing I learned in college, I learned by making a list. What started out as a homework assignment turned into one of the most important self-discoveries I would ever learn.
It was simple; make a list of 20 attributes you are looking for in a life partner. I began rattling off what I considered important characteristics I would want in my husband. “Honesty, sense of humor, and empathy” were up there but so was “loves to read” and “wants to travel”. As this catalog began to take shape, I noticed something interesting. All of these qualities I was listing of what was important to me in a partner… actually described ME.
I am very honest and empathetic. I have a good sense of humor (if I don’t say so myself). I dearly love to read and traveling awakens my adventurous inner being like no other.
This list turned into 20 things I love about myself. In other words, in order to find true love, I had to love myself. Mind blown. Perhaps you’ve heard this before; you have to love yourself before you can love others. I thought I knew what that meant when I was a young teen. You know, have respect for yourself and others will respect (read- love) you. But this list added a whole new layer. KNOW who you are, what makes you you, and what you LOVE about yourself and you’ll know what is important to you! Then you can look for that in the person you want to spend your life with. Done! My list became a guideline of sorts, something to refer back to when I was getting to know someone I was dating.
Now, of course I don’t mean you are looking for someone exactly like you. I married a handy man (thank goodness) and I don’t exactly know how to clean an air conditioning duct out. And there are some things on my list that he doesn’t have. (But even though he doesn’t get the same high from dancing that I do, I dearly love the look on his face when he joins me on the dance floor)
I would love to share my list with you but, much to my chagrin, I haven’t been able to find that list in the last 5 years. It’s probably because I met and married my guy and don’t need it anymore. Perhaps it’s the Universe’s way of de-cluttering what no longer serves me.
I have, however, created something in honor of this list that I am VERY excited to soon share with you. I won’t say too much today but I will tell you this. It’s a list and it will change your life. No biggie 😉 Here’s a sneak peek at the cover!
In the meantime, come tell me one of YOUR favorite things about yourself on my Facebook page or better yet, join my Facebook group “Intentional Living” and be around like minded people who are getting things done by making Joy part of their lives everyday.